One question that will impact your life, family and work | Some Wise ...

?Is it really that simple??

No, that isn?t the question I?m talking about, but the answer is, ?Yes, it is. However, it isn?t easy.?

I don?t think relationships are really all that complicated. Someone wise once said,

?Marriages don?t have issues. People have issues and they get married.?

I think relationships are simple, especially marriage. What they definitely are NOT is easy. Friendships, marriages and workplace relationships are easy. The situation gets dicey because people are involved.

People are not easy.

Often the most difficult person in any relationship is the one staring back at you in the mirror. I know I am. I?m selfish, short-tempered, overly sensitive, bitter, possessive and socially awkward. That is my nature.

How I choose to act is all on me. By the grace of God He guides my steps, blesses my family and gives me the ability to love sacrificially, but it?s still a choice.

I love my wife because I can?t help it. I see LK and I can?t help but smile. She walks into the room and it?s all I can do not to take her in my arms and start making out. I love her laugh and appreciate everything she does to make our house a home. But I can still be a big, selfish baby and I must choose to act against that nature.

?That?s sweet KC, but what?s this one question? You?re stalling bro.?

Fair enough, here is the question:

What can I do to help?

Imagine for a minute how you would feel if your spouse asked you this? Or your kid? What about a coworker?

Now transfer that feeling to your spouse, kid, coworker. How would they react if you asked them the same question. It?s scary to think about because you can?t ask that question with insincerity.

MEN: If you ask your wife what you can do to help and she points to the overflowing garbage can or that project you promised to finish 3 months ago you best be ready to follow through.

WOMEN: If you ask your husband what you can do to help and he asks for help with that project or a shoulder massage you?ve got to back up your offer.

MOMS/DADS: If you ask your kid(s) what you can do to help they may ask for some assistance with cleaning their room or if you can explain their homework.

This question creates an environment where we serve one another and support each other. Where needs are met and our selfish hearts are softened towards others. The focus shifts outwards to ?What can I do to help?? instead of inwards ?What can I get out of this??

Recently, I listened to Andy Stanley preach on the subject of mutual submission (a red warning light just started flashing in your brain and the alarm is blaring) and he talked about this question.

The scripture reference was Eph 5:21 where Paul is addressing the church.

Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

I highly recommend checking out the podcast of the sermon, but let me leave you with this challenge.

The question ?What can I do to help?? has a lot of power.

It could save your marriage.
It could strengthen your family.
It could improve your work.
It could change your life.

Asking it is the easy part. Following through is where the hard work begins.

Who do you need to ask this question to? What do you think their answer will be?

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